I have been told more and more lately that I am authentic. What is that? Does that mean I’m honest? When multiple people tell me the same thing that I am not so aware of, I like to look deeply into it. Coming from a background of the 12-steps, I was taught to call others to help me find answers. These days, I find my answers by getting still and quiet and sitting or floating in contemplation. I often tell people that floating helps me to access my inner guru or my inner shaman.


Here’s what I came up with. Authenticity implies a sort of fearlessness. I still have fear about some things. The one thing that is stronger than fear for me is my inner advocate. I think that is the part that has helped me speak out when I see injustice instead of being silent. I usually side with the underdog, and aim for equality and the gentle, loving solution – not 100% of the time, since I’m human and all, but that’s what I strive for every day.

Authenticity is speaking YOUR truth – even when it is not popular. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about slamming others with what you think is “right”, but instead, having the courage to say what is in your heart and soul. It means taking your own path when everyone may be going in a different direction. It means being true to who you are. Some of us may not yet know who we are and authenticity is the fearlessness to find out – to do the hard, messy, dirty work of discovering the nature of our own truth, our own soul. Do you believe something because that’s “just the way it is” or “that’s how I was raised?”

The Elephant in the Middle of the Room

Authenticity is questioning those belief systems passed down to you by those who came before you – usually parents, grandparents, society, and/or those who played a significant role in your upbringing. If you really stopped and thought about WHY you believed what you do, does that resonate with the highest part of your soul? It is having the courage to point out that there is a big, friggin’ elephant in the middle of the room that everyone else is afraid to acknowledge.

In most environments, I have nothing to hide. Having done 20 years of soul searching and personal development work, I am not scared to be the odd (wo)man out. I want to be an example of the person who practices what they preach. If I can inspire someone to step into their own power and authenticity in the process, all the better. I don’t care to be seen as flawless – that is not real. I am not everyone’s cup of tea and hopefully you aren’t either. You will not find me trying to impress others and I invite you to let go of that if you find yourself doing it. Let the person that you are be enough. Those who are meant to cross your path, will. Some will be for a season, a reason, or a lifetime.

With love in service,